My issue us I have a very good friend that I love to death who is putting up Pics on Facebook that is offensive. I am an adult and can ignore it, but my friend has my 2 daughters who are underage and kids who are younger as his friends and can see this. This Friend is the type if you confront them they get offended and hold a grudge. I have never had a problem out of them but, other friends have. I won't delete them, but may delete my daughters odd their page. I have noticed other offensive post, bit this one is pretty racy.
.....................just checked they erased it someone must have said something yeah........................................
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
Monday, February 13, 2012
No one I can Talk too!
I have said before I really have no one to talk to when I am having issues. I get very irritated. I usually like talking to my mom I know a few years ago I felt like I could but now I can't, I feel worse when I do. My mom is kinda close minded or not that she is close minded to everyone, its OK when her friends are different , but when it happens with the grand kids or to narrow it down my kids she just don't want to talk about it or she is so negative and not supportive.
I need her support so much right now in my life. I have just had the biggest bomb shell to drop on me in the last 2 weeks its just unbelievable. I suspected for years that my oldest daughters is a lesbian. but she had denied it.. I had a talk with her 3 weeks ago she said she wasn't lesbian nor straight she said she is A sexual she wasn't interested in any type of sexual relationship.. she don't ever want to be sexual with anyone that is scares her. Then she tells me a few days later, she said she is into romantic nonsexual love. I am thinking ok I can deal with this.. 2 weeks ago she springs on me that she is having issues with her gender. She says she wants to become a male. She has been binding her breast for months and when I questioned her about that she said he hated her large breast. I told her I didn't like it and she has no idea if its dangerous. Now she is wanting to have her breast removed. She said that when the surgery is improved she wants to have the full surgery.
I love this child as much as you can love someone. I am having issues with this. If it was being lesbian that is awesome and I can except it. This is something totally different and I don't know what to think. I am confused she wants me to call her by a male name and I just can't.. maybe in the future but right now I can't. Like I was saying before, I tried talking to my mom but she is like don't she know she is a girl. She don't believe Sarah feels this way she thinks its people she is hanging out with, I don't know either way. I am sitting back and seeing whats going on or trying to she is only 16 so I have no clue what is going on.
So this my life and the wonderful stuff I have to deal with.
I need her support so much right now in my life. I have just had the biggest bomb shell to drop on me in the last 2 weeks its just unbelievable. I suspected for years that my oldest daughters is a lesbian. but she had denied it.. I had a talk with her 3 weeks ago she said she wasn't lesbian nor straight she said she is A sexual she wasn't interested in any type of sexual relationship.. she don't ever want to be sexual with anyone that is scares her. Then she tells me a few days later, she said she is into romantic nonsexual love. I am thinking ok I can deal with this.. 2 weeks ago she springs on me that she is having issues with her gender. She says she wants to become a male. She has been binding her breast for months and when I questioned her about that she said he hated her large breast. I told her I didn't like it and she has no idea if its dangerous. Now she is wanting to have her breast removed. She said that when the surgery is improved she wants to have the full surgery.
I love this child as much as you can love someone. I am having issues with this. If it was being lesbian that is awesome and I can except it. This is something totally different and I don't know what to think. I am confused she wants me to call her by a male name and I just can't.. maybe in the future but right now I can't. Like I was saying before, I tried talking to my mom but she is like don't she know she is a girl. She don't believe Sarah feels this way she thinks its people she is hanging out with, I don't know either way. I am sitting back and seeing whats going on or trying to she is only 16 so I have no clue what is going on.
So this my life and the wonderful stuff I have to deal with.
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Teachers
I know my kids and most peoples kids are not perfect!! At the same time there are some teacher that shouldn't teach either. I have had teachers in school who where awesome, they truly love what they do and you can tell that. I have had teachers as well treat what they do as a pay check. Teaching is a gift some have and others have. Just because you went to school to get your degree doesn't mean you should teach.
The point I am getting at is, I use to always respect all teachers even if they where a little grumpy or rude whatever have you. I have had horrible teacher in grade school looking back on it now. I remember a teacher pulling my wrist back because she didn't believe my arm went through a window and cut it open.. ewww my mom was mad. I have also gotten trouble on my own accord when I was little.. I can remember plenty afternoons in the corner.
What takes the cake for me are teacher who lie to save there butts. My oldest daughter went on a field trip in the 3rd or 4th grade in to Turner Field. The class was crossing the street not in a cross walk, but in traffic the male teacher , who I use to work with pulled her across the street by her arm. I would have never know, but I noticed she was complaining her arm hurt that day. Both teachers lied and said there was no cross walks by the stadium, but luckily my uncle a cop at the time said there was and if he would have seen them cross they would been in a heep of trouble.. What made me so mad is the school she was at, at the time did nothing about it. But karma worked its magic a few years later.. the male teacher was fired and arrested for touching a female student inappropriately. I never wished anything like that to happen to him and never thought it would, but it did.
When my oldest was in the 8th grade She was already having issues with the 2 teachers in her class they where always yelling at the kids in the class, the class was over crowded, On day one of the teachers was being mean and laughing at her, she said you snort like a pig when you laugh. Everyday after that the same teacher would call her a pig and snort. We record this teacher, but all this happened atthe end of the school year and she knew she would never have that teacher ever again.. I still wish I would have turned the tape in so they could have heard how she was, not only to my child but other kids in tat class I still have the tape, but that has been almost 3 years ago.
Now she is in high school she is having more issues with rude teachers who seem like they would rather be someplace then teaching/. She tells me she has issues with her math teacher, she says when she asked her for help she acts as if it is trouble or treats her like she is stupid. I don't know if all that is true, but I do have trust issues with teachers, I have noticed that what the teacher says goes even if they are no being truthful, they automatically are believed even when the student is being honest. I hope this teacher isn't that way.
This is my opinion!
The point I am getting at is, I use to always respect all teachers even if they where a little grumpy or rude whatever have you. I have had horrible teacher in grade school looking back on it now. I remember a teacher pulling my wrist back because she didn't believe my arm went through a window and cut it open.. ewww my mom was mad. I have also gotten trouble on my own accord when I was little.. I can remember plenty afternoons in the corner.
What takes the cake for me are teacher who lie to save there butts. My oldest daughter went on a field trip in the 3rd or 4th grade in to Turner Field. The class was crossing the street not in a cross walk, but in traffic the male teacher , who I use to work with pulled her across the street by her arm. I would have never know, but I noticed she was complaining her arm hurt that day. Both teachers lied and said there was no cross walks by the stadium, but luckily my uncle a cop at the time said there was and if he would have seen them cross they would been in a heep of trouble.. What made me so mad is the school she was at, at the time did nothing about it. But karma worked its magic a few years later.. the male teacher was fired and arrested for touching a female student inappropriately. I never wished anything like that to happen to him and never thought it would, but it did.
When my oldest was in the 8th grade She was already having issues with the 2 teachers in her class they where always yelling at the kids in the class, the class was over crowded, On day one of the teachers was being mean and laughing at her, she said you snort like a pig when you laugh. Everyday after that the same teacher would call her a pig and snort. We record this teacher, but all this happened atthe end of the school year and she knew she would never have that teacher ever again.. I still wish I would have turned the tape in so they could have heard how she was, not only to my child but other kids in tat class I still have the tape, but that has been almost 3 years ago.
Now she is in high school she is having more issues with rude teachers who seem like they would rather be someplace then teaching/. She tells me she has issues with her math teacher, she says when she asked her for help she acts as if it is trouble or treats her like she is stupid. I don't know if all that is true, but I do have trust issues with teachers, I have noticed that what the teacher says goes even if they are no being truthful, they automatically are believed even when the student is being honest. I hope this teacher isn't that way.
This is my opinion!
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Trying to be trusting again!?!
Tomorrow I am going to a(friend) of mines house. I am trying to trust more people and mostly her. She asked me to visit , she has some stuff for me. It is hard for me to get out there and hang out with people. I am so afraid that I will be hurt again.. I use to be emotional and care what others said or thought about me.. Now sometimes I am bitter and really can care less about anything. I want to be in between.. I like the fact that I don't care about what other think about me, that can stay. I just need to regain a little emotion.. I get emotional over things that aren't that important a movie or commercial. When it comes to real life its not there anymore.
I am trying to make new friends I need more people in my life. I have always said I don't wanna die alone, but you know that is mostly up to me. Oh and I would still like hanging out with my old friends, it just don't seem like we can get together and then we just seem to give up trying to.. So bad I know.
Trusting men is a different question that is something I really have to work on.. I have learned a lot not being trusting toward men/ relationships .. I have learned to take things as slow as I need to get to know a person before going to another level. Think that will help my trust issue. I am learning so I guess I can give myself a break.
I am happy that I am getting out tomorrow night.. Maybe I will find something to do Saturday too. I wish both kids had something to do, I would see if the parents would want to have an adult night out for dinner with out the kids. There is still Hope!
Maybe if I find my cam I will do a haul Blog about what friend gave me.. she's a extreme coupon- er and always has something something!!
All for now! Till Next Time! Char
I am trying to make new friends I need more people in my life. I have always said I don't wanna die alone, but you know that is mostly up to me. Oh and I would still like hanging out with my old friends, it just don't seem like we can get together and then we just seem to give up trying to.. So bad I know.
Trusting men is a different question that is something I really have to work on.. I have learned a lot not being trusting toward men/ relationships .. I have learned to take things as slow as I need to get to know a person before going to another level. Think that will help my trust issue. I am learning so I guess I can give myself a break.
I am happy that I am getting out tomorrow night.. Maybe I will find something to do Saturday too. I wish both kids had something to do, I would see if the parents would want to have an adult night out for dinner with out the kids. There is still Hope!
Maybe if I find my cam I will do a haul Blog about what friend gave me.. she's a extreme coupon- er and always has something something!!
All for now! Till Next Time! Char
Teenage Hell!
I do have really good kids. I see teenagers and I look at my 2 as if they are angels, ummm which there aren't. My kids and mostly my oldest is more frustrating more than anything else. She will argue back in a heart beat and she is always right (in her opinion) and has to have the last word in,, that she don't win, I am like my mom in that situation I like the last word too and being the parent I should have it anyways.
Tonight she wanted to know if it was OK if I would let her and her 13 year old sister to go to a meet-up/lock in at an off season haunted house 20 or more miles away and the old adult is barely an adult. I told her I wasn't comfortable with that I don't feel comfortable with her and her sister in a practically abandon building with an adult who don't care what they are doing. I told her no and she kept on and on she didn't want to except my answer and didn't understand my reasoning and wanted me to explain it to her liking.. Finally I say I said no I am not changing my answer and I don't want to her another word about it out of your mouth and she stomped off to her room. While her little sister was a little disappointed but said oh well.
My youngest is starting to get a little bit mouthy, but never as bad as my oldest...She loud and angry she is a yell er she like to accuse before she knows the truth and she is very vocal stomps off and pouts like her dad.. I hope it don't get worse as she gets older. I sometimes wanna pull out all my hair. My arguments with her are more with her wanting everything she just has to have it or she is gonna just die OMG
I wonder if I drove my mom as crazy as they do me sometimes.. I am sure I did. I can remember some situations I have gotten in trouble as a kid. I remember when I was 15 or so and my mom smacked me in the face and I hit back at her. That was not a good idea. I really didn't mean to hit back her I was guarding my face and hit her as my hand went up bad news. When I was younger I was on a diet and my step dad caught me eating Doritos's and I denied it.. He know what I was doing with bright orange on my face. I made the mistake and told him he can't touch me he isn't my dad he spanked me all the way home. I know there is more. One day I will have to write a blog about some of the stupid things I have done in my life.. Its all so funny! Until Next time! Char
Tonight she wanted to know if it was OK if I would let her and her 13 year old sister to go to a meet-up/lock in at an off season haunted house 20 or more miles away and the old adult is barely an adult. I told her I wasn't comfortable with that I don't feel comfortable with her and her sister in a practically abandon building with an adult who don't care what they are doing. I told her no and she kept on and on she didn't want to except my answer and didn't understand my reasoning and wanted me to explain it to her liking.. Finally I say I said no I am not changing my answer and I don't want to her another word about it out of your mouth and she stomped off to her room. While her little sister was a little disappointed but said oh well.
My youngest is starting to get a little bit mouthy, but never as bad as my oldest...She loud and angry she is a yell er she like to accuse before she knows the truth and she is very vocal stomps off and pouts like her dad.. I hope it don't get worse as she gets older. I sometimes wanna pull out all my hair. My arguments with her are more with her wanting everything she just has to have it or she is gonna just die OMG
I wonder if I drove my mom as crazy as they do me sometimes.. I am sure I did. I can remember some situations I have gotten in trouble as a kid. I remember when I was 15 or so and my mom smacked me in the face and I hit back at her. That was not a good idea. I really didn't mean to hit back her I was guarding my face and hit her as my hand went up bad news. When I was younger I was on a diet and my step dad caught me eating Doritos's and I denied it.. He know what I was doing with bright orange on my face. I made the mistake and told him he can't touch me he isn't my dad he spanked me all the way home. I know there is more. One day I will have to write a blog about some of the stupid things I have done in my life.. Its all so funny! Until Next time! Char
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Over Emotional People
I hate dealing with these types of people, you never know how to approach them without them saying"why are you being mean to me?" or "Why are you being so mean?" They try to make themself out to be the victim when they are the ones who are the cause of the problem in the 1st place. These are people who don't want to deal with the things they have done and make it all about you and not them. I am having to deal with that in my life right now and will have to for the nexy 5 or so years.
I can't say anything to this person without all sorts of drama and people getting upset. I now need to talk to this person about so stuff, but yet to try because I don't wanna deal with them.. even if I have something important to say to help them out and me but they will take it as something else. I try to send them a message or email so I don't have to talk to them , but it backfires they still call me grrrr. I can't win without losing.
What to do? what to do? I decision I don't want to make because it will be wrong either way.
I can't say anything to this person without all sorts of drama and people getting upset. I now need to talk to this person about so stuff, but yet to try because I don't wanna deal with them.. even if I have something important to say to help them out and me but they will take it as something else. I try to send them a message or email so I don't have to talk to them , but it backfires they still call me grrrr. I can't win without losing.
What to do? what to do? I decision I don't want to make because it will be wrong either way.
Monday, January 2, 2012
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